I had three friends I'll call Jane, Alice, and Betty. I met Jane 25 years ago, Alice 15 years ago and Betty 10 years ago. Suffice to say we were connected for a very long time.
Our conversations mostly seemed to center around what wrongs people were doing to us. The emotionally absent husband, the unresponsive and inconsiderate children, the demanding boss and annoying co-workers, and similar grievances. Although I didn't experience too much of this personally, I certainly got hooked into the conversation, commiserating and sympathizing with each example of victimization.
When I began to study Law of Attraction, among other teachings, I became conscious of how inappropriate these conversations felt. Rather than feeling connected to these women, I started to feel extremely out of alignment. These interactions felt judgmental, negative, and toxic. I went away feeling emotionally and physically drained.
Law of Attraction was new and exciting to me. I spoke about it with anyone who was interested. I studied every LoA teacher I resonated with. Spent thousands of dollars and hundreds of hours learning and then teaching what I learned, and then learning some more.
Jane, Alice and Betty politely listened to what I had to share. But it soon became apparent they were not interested in looking any further, nor would they consider allowing me the choice of eliminating negative stories from our conversations. With extreme consideration and a bit of trepidation, I realized I had to let them go.
It wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. Jane and Alice faded away. After receiving one of Jane's emails which disparaged my Law of Attraction comments, I chose not to respond. She in turn did not follow up. That was a year ago. During a phone call with Alice, I provided a Law of Attraction observation in response to her complaint about her boss. She politely ended the conversation and hasn't called me since. Over six months has passed.
Betty was a different story. During a phone conversation, she called a mutual friend of ours a bitch. She proceeded to offer vast amounts of evidence as to why our friend was to blame for her situation. She also declared, in no uncertain terms, how no one appreciated or acknowledged anything she did, and according to her, she did everything right. I call that martyr syndrome.
So I suggested we are responsible for everything we attract into our lives - a basic Law of Attraction concept. She started screaming at me! I asked her to stop. She got louder! I said (or tried to over her incessant and vociferous rantings) I would have to hang up if she persisted in treating me in this manner (memories of my mother began to creep in). She would have none of it. I said goodbye and ended the connection. Forever.
Upon reflection, I absolutely recognize I attracted these women with the state of consciousness i was in at the time. When I changed, my feelings changed. When my feelings changed, my vibration changed. Theirs didn't.
If I gave you a glass of poison and said, "Here, have a drink," you would think I was crazy. Of course you wouldn't drink it. You wouldn't dare allow a toxin into your body that could make you sick. So think about the people in your life. Are they toxic to your energy body? If so, what is that doing to your vibration?
Protect your vibration. Eliminate or at the very least, severely limit the interactions you have with toxic people. If these people are in your family or at your place of work and it is impossible to completely remove them from your experience, there are other ways you can protect your vibration. The stronger your positive vibration, the less likely it will be that these people will be able to have an effect on your emotions.
I invite and encourage your comments.
Barbara
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